Blessed-A Poem

I found this old poem I wrote from high school, and I cannot believe what a tortured soul I was!

Blessed by the silence of a white room faded black,
i feel your prescence with me now,
i sense you're coming back.
sometimes i like to imagine that the sky is just for me,
the way the sun just rises to gently in the east;
the way the sun just sets so firmly in the west,
proves to me that mother earth is so, by beauty, blessed.
sometimes i feel the ocean is meant for just my eye;
it's silky sapphire way of look?
a gift from father sky.
why do we as beings rule out the beauty that we've been given?
and why do we take for granted the miles mankind has driven?
as i look back into the past,
at things i've done,
i simply ask,
why does life drift by so fast?
and where do we go when it's over at last?
now, as i watch the sunset
in my white room faded black,
i open my eyes and realize
that you're not coming back.
i've bumped heads with reality
as the sun sets in the west,
"it's ok," i tell myself,
i, by life, am blessed.

I never once considered Facebook to be the CULPRIT

As you all are aware, my parents have recently filed for divorce. While they both admit that they have been unhappy for years, I blame part of the reasoning for their divorce on FACEBOOK.
"Jack and Jill had been married for seven years when Jack stunned Jill by announcing one day that he wanted a divorce. Initially, Jill was utterly shocked and devastated. When she was able to think a bit more clearly, she admitted that she had noticed Jack had become somewhat distant over the past few months, and that he was spending a lot of time on the computer. "What she didn't know was that her husband was having an affair - and most of the foreplay happened right in the marital home. Jack, you see, had reconnected with an old girlfriend on facebook." (www.imagolady.com)

THE EXACT SAME THING HAPPENED TO MY MOTHER; she reconnected with an old friend from high school, and coincidentally, a few months later, my mother and stepfather filed for divorce.
An article on CNN.com discusses the dangers of becoming addicted to Facebook. The article follows the story of a mother who chooses not to help her daughter with her homework because she was too busy on Facebook. "Paula Pile, a marriage and family therapist in Greensboro, North Carolinasays problems arise when users ignore family and work obligations because they find the Facebook world a more enjoyable place to spend time than the real world.


My mother actually flew to Zanesville, OH (her hometown) to visit "Bill" (the facebook man) which really pisses me off because she told me she went to visit my grandmother (her mother); which obviously turned out to be a lie. Will the facebook fantasy ever end? I feel as though my mother was in a vulnerable state and when a fantasy like Bill comes along, we all get a little lost.

The Addict Continued...

We are all addicts feeling a void with our drug of choice, I am just coming to that realization that some obsessions are not as bad as others. I know when my mother collected Native American artifacts, she got a high from picking out or finding that new one to add to her collection.
I know my father spends hours fine tuning his turbo Porsche and planning out trips because it gives him a high to do so. We all have something we like to get obsessed over...
Is it to fill a natural void that we are all born with as human beings, and therefore, we'll never feel completely satisfied with our lives? Some people could fill that void with the drug of religion; with which they become obsessed, or so it seems on the outside; however, to the religious, they are absolutely fulfilled, no holes to fill or that haven't been already filled by their religion.
I bet I could find a golfer who has the same religious experience when he is out on the course. So what am I replacing that unhealthy addiction with, extreme sports like surfing, (which has been referred to as a type of therapy for stress and anxiety as well as being referred to as a drug) religion, shopping WHO KNOWS. Can I force myself to become happy in an obsession as innocent as picking seashells on a beach or maybe growing a nice garden.
If obsession creates happiness and fills a void, then why is it looked upon as psychologically unhealthy? In psychology we are told that we need to dig into that void and fix it, but have we not already agreed it is good to have hobbies, and that we all have SOMETHING that we do that gives us a high that we are everyday planning on how we will attain that next high. So I ask you the reader of this blog, what are planning right now that gives you that uplifting joy that I call high.

The Addict - A Dead End

I don't know how many people who read this are going to be honest with themselves, but I want you to ask yourself one question. Are you an addict? I recently discovered that I, myself, am an addict.
From freshman year of high school and on, I have been trading one drug for another; constantly looking for a new high. For example, the first time I tried smoking weed, I was hooked-not for life, just until the next best high came along. That next best high happened to be Ecstasy- 'E', 'X', Thizz or whatever they call it these days in the East Bay. While experimenting with Ecstasy, (stimulants turned out to be my drugs of choice) I discovered psychedelic mushrooms, LSD, Cocaine, Oxycontin, anything you could possibly think of, with the exception of anything involving needles; I was never too open to the idea of needles.

This craziness lasted up until my senior year of high school; during which I discovered alcohol. Alcohol: so innocent, so feeble compared to the experiments I had previously conducted. Alcohol: so NOT innocent, so preciously disguised by its legality.

The purpose of this particular posting is not to give the reader a better impression of me :); it is a personal riddance of the void in my life with which for SO long, I have been attempting to fill with drugs. It is as if for my entire life, I have had a large hole in my heart; a hole I did not know how to fill-- a hole I think that other people with the disease of addiction can relate to. Drugs are temporary "void-fillers," not solutions to our problems. It is amazing, however, to think that one little alteration of a person's brain-chemical makeup can temporarily satisfy the need to fill a void affecting their entire outlook on and way of life.

Divorce

Divorce. The institution of marriage has been mutilated by society having the ability to take the "easy way out." I hate it. For the second time in my life, two people who are nearest and dearest to me (my mother and stepfather-who has been in my life since I was three years old and has practically raised me) are getting a divorce. The way my mother went about telling me was far from respectable and/or expectant; she broke the news over the phone believe it or not, laughed at me when I cried, and was just overall patronizing. She was saying things like, "Come on, Blaine, you knew this was coming...," and "Why are you reacting this way?..." I have never heard my mother talk to me that way; I'd at least expect her to have a little sympathy. I am in my senior year of college which, as a result, puts me under a tremendous amount of stress, and I just had my world completely ripped apart OVER THE PHONE. It just really upsets me because like I said, for the second time in my life, (my mother and father divorced when I was three)my parents got a divorce.