Thursday, April 23, 2009

I never once considered Facebook to be the CULPRIT


As you all are aware, my parents have recently filed for divorce. While they both admit that they have been unhappy for years, I blame part of the reasoning for their divorce on FACEBOOK.
"Jack and Jill had been married for seven years when Jack stunned Jill by announcing one day that he wanted a divorce. Initially, Jill was utterly shocked and devastated. When she was able to think a bit more clearly, she admitted that she had noticed Jack had become somewhat distant over the past few months, and that he was spending a lot of time on the computer. "What she didn't know was that her husband was having an affair - and most of the foreplay happened right in the marital home. Jack, you see, had reconnected with an old girlfriend on facebook." (www.imagolady.com)

THE EXACT SAME THING HAPPENED TO MY MOTHER; she reconnected with an old friend from high school, and coincidentally, a few months later, my mother and stepfather filed for divorce.
An article on CNN.com discusses the dangers of becoming addicted to Facebook. The article follows the story of a mother who chooses not to help her daughter with her homework because she was too busy on Facebook. "Paula Pile, a marriage and family therapist in Greensboro, North Carolinasays problems arise when users ignore family and work obligations because they find the Facebook world a more enjoyable place to spend time than the real world.


My mother actually flew to Zanesville, OH (her hometown) to visit "Bill" (the facebook man) which really pisses me off because she told me she went to visit my grandmother (her mother); which obviously turned out to be a lie. Will the facebook fantasy ever end? I feel as though my mother was in a vulnerable state and when a fantasy like Bill comes along, we all get a little lost.

1 comment:

  1. I do not not your situation exactly, I can only comment from what you have wrote. Some people fall out of love, or people change. Perhaps when you spend years and years with someone you realize you want something different. I don't know if I would blame facebook, it seems it did re-establish the connection between her and "Bill", so yes they were able to chat but in the end maybe she thought her connection with "Bill" was stronger than with your step-dad in her current life. Life is unpredictable, I agree this whole facebook, twiitter thing is getting out of hand but we can't put the blame there. We all make out choices in the end...( divorce is hard either way, sorry)

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